the only persons i talk to using saya-awak are my cousins and my aunts and uncles. with my siblings we usually use orang-dia. i hate it when my brother resorts to aku-kau when he gets angry, coz i never do that and i don't see the reason why he should. being angry is bad enough, does he have to be rude too? i rarely get angry, but i get exasperated with my parents and younger siblings easily. with other people i get upset not angry, but i get it out of my system fairly quickly. it's better to get upset by what a person has done, not with the person him/herself. that way, it's easier to remember that everyone has flaws and is prone to mistakes. and again, try to always remember to look at yourself first for faults instead of at other people.